You're not fighting. You're not falling apart. You just miss feeling close.
You still love each other.
But somewhere between the schedules, the kids, work, and everyday life, it got harder to actually feel connected.
We created the FIRM Foundation 4-week date night experience to help you find your way back to each other—without expensive dinners, complicated planning, or even leaving home.
"I loved the experience. I felt more optimistic about our relationship in general." –Candace
🎙️Trusted by 100,000+ podcast listeners on Moms Who Know 🤝🏻 Backed by a Decade of Coaching Experience
You Can Love Each Other and Still Feel Far Apart.
Maybe you make decisions together.
You still kiss goodnight.
You still love each other.
But most of your conversations are about who's driving where, what needs to get done, what's happening with the kids, and what time you need to be somewhere.
You're functioning as a team.
You're just not always feeling like a couple.
And that's the frustrating part.
Nothing is wrong enough to demand fixing.
You just miss you two.
Your Marriage Doesn't Need Fixing.
It Needs Connection.
Date Nights Designed to Help You
Feel Like a Couple Again.
FIRM Foundation Date Nights
Created by James & Chanelle Neilson
Married 25 years • Certified Relationship Coach • Associate Marriage and Family Therapist • 500,000+ podcast downloads
FIRM Foundation Date Nights
October 3, 10, 17 and 24
Four Weeks. Four Date Nights. $597
Your $597 Includes
4 Weekly Date Nights
October 3, 10, 17 & 24
4 Live 45-Minute Zoom Sessions
Teaching and exercises with James & Chanelle
4 Curated Date Night Boxes
A physical box delivered to your door for each week's experience
A Complete 4-Week Marriage Experience
Designed around Friendship, Intimacy, Respect & Momentum
One month. Four date nights. Everything delivered to you.
Everything You Need for a Great Date Night— Delivered to Your Door.
THE FIRM FOUNDATION DATE NIGHT BOXES
📦 Physical date-night materials
💬 Conversation cards
🎯 Guided activities
❤️ Thoughtfully designed prompts
🎥 Digital guidance from James & Chanelle
Set aside the evening. Join the Zoom. Open the box.
🎥 Guided Date Nights
James & Chanelle guide you through four powerful date night experiences so you're never wondering what to do next. We start with a zoom call and then let you continue the date night with the boxes at home. (Date Nights will be held on Oct 3, 10, 17 and 24 with recordings shared if you can't make it live.)
❤️ Intentional Connection
Each date night has a purpose—not to “fix” your marriage, but to create space for the two of you to reconnect. Every experience is built around our FIRM Framework—the four foundations of a strong marriage: Friendship, Intimacy, Respect, and Momentum. You'll have real conversations, rediscover things about each other, and talk about the things that can easily get lost in the busyness of everyday life
🎉 Have Fun Together
Yes, you'll learn. Yes, You'll Connect. But You'll Also Have Fun. You'll laugh. You'll play. You'll do something a little different together. Because this is still date night—and date night is supposed to be fun. We want you walking away thinking, “That was actually really fun. I want to do that again.”
Meaningful Conversations. Fun Experiences. Real Connection.
JOIN US
45 Minute Zoom Call
Learn something about marriage and complete exercises together.
OPEN YOUR BOX
Your Curated Date Night Box
Everything you need for that week's experience is waiting for you.
GO OFFLINE
Continue Your Date Together
Put the phones away and enjoy the rest of the night with just the two of you.
After your date night, you’ll walk away feeling:
You Don't Have to Be in Trouble to Want More.
In fact, we think that's the best time to invest in your marriage.
You don't have to wait until you're fighting all the time.
You don't have to wait until you feel like roommates.
You don't have to wait until someone says, “We need counseling.”
You can simply decide you want to enjoy each other more.
You Don't Need a Weekend Away to Reconnect.
No luxury vacation.
No expensive restaurant.
No babysitter required.
No hours of planning.
Just intentional time together.
Because sometimes two hours in your own living room can do more for your connection than another month of saying, “We really need to go on a date.”
"This was just the kind of simple night together that we needed to reconnect. Our lives are so busy that we sometimes miss each other. But FIRM date night had us laughing, having fun and feeling like a couple again. Thank you!" -Tiffany
Not Ready to Buy?
Start With Us for Free.
We'd rather you experience what a guided date night feels like than ask you to take our word for it.
We've created a complete guided date night you can do at home.
Two hours. No planning required. And yes, ours involves a blanket fort.
No credit card. No commitment.
Why Couples
Trust Us
After 25 years of marriage, raising five children, and navigating the busyness of real life, we know what it’s like to love each other deeply and still feel less connected than you used to.
James is a certified relationship coach with years of experience working with couples and families.
Chanelle has spent more than a decade coaching women, created the Moms Who Know podcast with more than 500,000 downloads, and pursued training as an Associate Marriage and Family Therapist.
Together, we've worked with hundreds of couples and thousands of people through coaching, podcasts, speaking, and other settings.
We created FIRM Foundation Marriage because we don't want couples to wait until their marriage is in trouble before they start taking care of it.
Frequently Asked Questions
What exactly are FIRM Foundation Date Nights?
FIRM Foundation Date Nights are four weeks of guided date nights designed to help you reconnect, one week at a time.
Each week begins with a 45-minute group session on Zoom with us and other couples. We’ll share practical teaching about marriage, give you an exercise to work through together, and get you thinking and talking about your relationship in a meaningful way.
And don't worry—you don't have to be on camera or participate in front of the group. You can stay muted, keep your camera off, and simply enjoy the experience together.
After the group session, we'll send you off your devices and into your date night. You'll open your curated FIRM Date Night Box, delivered right to your door, and continue the experience together at home.
Each week combines teaching, meaningful conversation, and a fun, hands-on date-night experience—giving you dedicated time to strengthen your marriage while simply enjoying being together.
How much time does it take?
Four nights, two hours each time. We hope you can join us live, but if not, schedule a time that works for you – the recordings will be provided.
Do we have to go anywhere or prepare anything?
No. FIRM Foundation Date Nights are meant to be done right at home. Let us guide you through the experience. We'll send you everything you need in a beautifully curated package ahead of time. Your job is to set aside time, and come with your spouse, willingness to put your phones down and focus on each other.
Is this marriage counseling?
No. This isn't about diagnosing problems or telling you what's wrong with your marriage. It's about creating space for you and your spouse to talk, laugh, reconnect, and discover what works for the two of you.
What if our marriage is doing fine?
Perfect. You don't have to be struggling to benefit from intentional time together. In fact, we believe the best time to strengthen your marriage is before you're in trouble.
What if we're not good at talking about our feelings?
That's exactly why you're being guided. We give you questions and activities that make meaningful conversations easier and more natural. You don't have to be a great communicator to have a great conversation.
What if we don't think we need a date night?
That's probably one of the best reasons to try one. You don't have to be struggling to want more connection, more laughter, and more fun together. Our goal isn't to fix a broken marriage. It's to help a good marriage become even better.
You Don't Have to Wait Until There's a Problem.
Put the phones away.
Make some space.
Press play.
And spend a little time remembering why you like each other.
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